A child expert has shared a video with her fans explaining why you should never shout at your children – adding that it would be better to whisper things to them instead.
TikTok parenting coach Tia Slightham said that raising your voice to your children will increase their cortisol levels, which is the body’s primary stress hormone.
She said this means the children literally cannot hear you, and they’ll go into fight or flight mode and quite possibly have a meltdown.
Instead, Tia recommends whispering to your children – as this will make them curious about what you have said and they will be able to absorb the message easier.
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In the video, Tia said: “If you want to stop yelling, this is a really great tip to help. Whisper, don’t yell.
“When you feel like you are going to explode, when you feel like you’re going to lose your mind because your kids are not doing what you want them to do, and you end up blowing up and exploding like that bubbling volcano, your kids don’t hear you.
“They just go into fear mode. Their cortisol levels increase, their stress increases and they go into fight or flight.
“So instead I want you to try this trick, I want you to whisper instead of yell.
“When you feel like you’re going to explode, take a deep breath and say it quietly.”
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Tia’s advice got a mixed reaction on TikTok, with some saying the technique didn’t work for their kids.
One said: “I whisper until I have to yell again cause whispering makes them ignore me more.”
While another said: “I mean I’ll try it. If it doesn’t work I’m going back to yelling.”
And a third added: “I will try it cos I feel so bad when yelling at my kids and I can’t just control myself sometimes when I’ve had enough.”
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